We talk an awful lot about what we’re doing wrong as mothers, parents…just as people in general.
But can we stop?
Can we start talking about all the things we are doing right?
Whether your baby is breastfed, formula fed, bottle fed or cup fed…you are feeding your baby.
Whether your baby is co-sleeping, in a bassinet next to your bed or in a crib three rooms away…you are figuring out how to get your baby the rest they need and the rest you need.
Whether you are baby wearing, stroller pushing or holding them on your hip the good old fashion way…you are showing your baby the world.
Whether you are pureeing solids or going more for the baby led weaning approach…you are teaching your baby how to eat, you are helping them to survive.
Whether you are reading books every night, dancing in the kitchen, running outside, singing in the bath, coloring before lunch or any of the other millions things you do with them during the day….you are walking them through life, doing what feels right.
This list could go on and on and on…
But the point is this – you are doing a whole heck of a lot right, mama.
You are loving your baby.
You are figuring out what works for them.
You are figuring out what works the best for you.
You are doing the best you can.
We can’t ask for more, and we shouldn’t be asking for more.
It’s time we let go of the “perfect parent”. We can’t continue to act like we know it all just because something worked for us. Just because it works for us doesn’t mean it will work for the next person, it doesn’t mean it is the best way and it certainly doesn’t mean it is the only way.
Every baby is different. Every mom is different. Every dad is different. Every family is different. So why would we think that there is a “best way” for anything?
If we spent less time preaching and more time helping…we could be on to something. But, it starts with us as individuals. You have to change that voice within.
That means you have to start telling yourself everything you are doing right and stop focusing on the things we aren’t doing that other people are.
Do what feels best for you. Do what works for you. And take pride in it.
Next time someone decides to tell you all that you are doing wrong – excuse my french – but fuck them because you are doing a whole hell of a lot right.
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