As you sit there and wait the arrival of your little one I wanted you to know that I am thinking about you.
You will likely go through some hard hours before you get to see that little face that will forever change your life.
I realized as I was writing a few posts this week that some of the things we write, as moms that are in the throws of it, must seem scary. We talk about our messy houses, tantrums, never getting alone time, etc. and I wanted you to know that, though those things might sound scary, you are about to embark on the adventure of a lifetime with ups and downs. But here’s the thing…every single second is worth it.
When you hold that baby for the first time you will feel on a whole new level. Within those first few weeks you will be knocked down by the emotion and love that this little human being has for you. You will, quite literally, be wrapped around their finger.
The love is so strong.
You will feel it as you breathe in their sweet newborn scent – enjoy it while you can. I think many of us would choose to bottle that smell if we could.
You will feel it as your thumb and fingers touch their smooth baby skin and gaze down in awe of this tiny person that you grew.
You will feel it when those eyes open and they look for you – the only person they have truly known for 40 weeks.
You will be their world, even as they begin to know more and see more around them.
I won’t sugar coat motherhood for you and tell you it is all unicorns and rainbows because it’s not. Actually, it’s really hard at times. You will find yourself laughing and crying – sometimes at the same time. You will want to pack your bags and run away as far as you can one day and the next, when you have that sweet baby nestled up against you will know exactly what “home” is.
Your heart will ache when you can’t fix everything for your little one and your heart will beam with pride as they develop and discover new things.
Your heart will never be the same. It can’t be.
You might be worried about the pain, about how gracefully your baby will enter this world or maybe about going home and the adjustment phase after. Maybe you are scared because you’ve heard stories about how exhausted women are after having their babies. Or, who knows, maybe you have begun to fear the world in which they are being brought into.
And with all those fears I want to share the single most important thing I was ever told as I sat on my couch worried the night before I had my son:
You will be amazing. You will be more than enough for this child and you have nothing to worry about. I know this because you are worrying already and the baby isn’t here. Your worry means you are ready to parent. You are ready to shine.
And that’s the truth. You will shine in ways you have never imagined, you will stand up for things you never even knew you believed in, you will advocate for you innocent child and you will master the art of multitasking…and you will be tired, but your light will shine through it. Your body knows what to do – so trust it.
That baby will come and they will end up exactly where they were meant to be – in your arms…and at that very moment you will know all the world is right. And you will be right. There is nothing more for you or for them that could be better in that world at that moment.
I hope you can enjoy the moments before your baby arrives and take a few to reflect on all you think your heart can handle…because, mama…you ain’t see nothin’ yet.
And just remember these words when you feel like you can’t do it anymore: You. Are. Enough. You are all that baby has ever needed. You are enough.
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