…and it doesn’t have anything to do with money.
When it comes to parenting, and really life in general, I try to be pretty non judgmental, but I’m human. The thing is, what it comes down to is that I really subscribe to the philosophy #youdoyou.
But no, I’m not going to tell you that you NEED to breastfeed your child.
Nope, I’m not going to tell you that you NEED to make your own baby food.
Nope, I’m not going to tell you that you’re a bad parent if you give your kids sugar.
or don’t feed them organic food.
or shop at walmart.
or only wear yoga pants.
or chose to go back to work asap.
or chose to put your career on hold and stay home.
There are so many things I hear every. single. day. and I just can’t handle it.
I’m not judging you.
Yes, I’m a sleep consultant and the reason why I chose to enter into this field is because I know there are others moms that need sleep the same way I did.
It’s not about my opinions in co-sleeping.
It’s not about my opinions regarding how long a child sleeps.
It’s not about how you choose to respond to your child.
My sleep training method #attachedtosleep, and the way I choose to coach other parents who seek me out for help, was really based on me and my children. That seems so selfish so I feel the need to explain a little.
I couldn’t let my baby cry it out. I tried and I’ll admit that. But the truth is the sounds of the cries made me terribly anxious, we lived in a small apartment and I felt like I was betraying my child…this sweet baby that I had prayed for and wanted more anything in the world. So sleep training in the “traditional” sense didn’t work for us despite the recommendation of family, friends and doctors.
…but I still couldn’t afford to be tired. I couldn’t afford to be waking up every 90 minutes throughout the night.
It wasn’t just because I had a full time job and I needed to function.
I mean that was definitely part of it, but ultimately it wasn’t THE reason.
What I couldn’t afford to lose was my stability when it came to mental health. I battled depression and anxiety for years. I had finally been in a good place for a couple of years. I knew I wasn’t in the clear, nor would I ever be, but I knew I had it managed and I knew it needed to stay that way.
I needed to be healthy for my new baby.
I needed to be healthy for my husband.
I needed to be healthy for my job and the students I had.
I needed to be healthy for my family.
I needed to be healthy for me.
And part of that was my sleep. If I let my sleep slip, it was a slippery slippery slope that I could rarely pull myself back up.
…but I still couldn’t let my baby cry to “teach” him. It didn’t feel right to me.
So I read everything, I devoured books, articles, research. I had phone calls with sleep consultants. I talked to other parents..
and then I took a step back and figured it out on my own.
I responded to my child, but used different steps from different methods, but mostly I just followed my gut.
And it worked.
And then a few months later I had baby number two.
And we started all over again around 4 months old.
And it worked even better.
And then I started to help others.
And it worked every. single. time.
That’s when I knew that I was on to something and I knew I needed to help other moms because there were other moms – mental illness or not – that couldn’t afford to be tired either.
That’s how #attachedtosleep was born.
That’s the story behind #attachedtosleep.
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